Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Being Replaced


How is it in the workplace we know at the drop of a hat we are replaceable, yet in our personal lives that thought never crosses our mind?

When we meet someone and it turns into a relationship we think that it'll be forever. But when forever turns into 25 years short of that, we go our separate ways and move on. We live day to day completely oblivious, until that one day we find out he/she has found someone else. We think to ourselves how is this possible, I was everything that he/she wanted? That statement right there is what I'm talking about. How could I be replaced? We have this skewed vision on ourselves and feel that no one can take our place. Yet every day at work we are on our toes knowing full well that we can be replaced. So why can't we carry this very helpful information forward with us in our personal lives? We know when we leave a job; we will assist in training our replacement. So why is it so hard in our personal lives to accept that we will eventually be replaced?

We work so hard in our lives to try and be the best we can be but somewhere along the way we forget ourselves and try to tailor who we are for someone we think they (either he/she) want us to be. Our view of reality becomes a facade which we must work very hard at keeping up. The line between reality and fantasy becomes very fine, which then leads me to the inevitable question..."When can I be replaced?" Which should then lead us to the inevitable answer...I wasn't happy with who I'd become. It's no wonder I was replaced. So as we ponder this very simple explanation we have to chuckle to ourselves and say when it really matters, I won't care if I'm replaced just as long as I don't lose myself in the process.

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