How to be single

I watched this movie tonight and thought overall, this is funny. The characters, the setting, the storylines...

At the end of the movie, she says to "enjoy the time you're single", and I think that is 100% right. I like most people also moved from my parent's home, to an aunt's, to a roommates and then boyfriends in between. I had never actually lived alone...and then it finally happened.

I had bought a place of my own (while I was single) and was over the moon excited to get moved in. At the time I was busting my butt working two jobs and paying off any debt that I had brought with me from a previous relationship. I'm pretty sure it went like this...get possession of new place, move ALL my crap in (that was a couple of loads). Unload said crap and then move boxes to the correct rooms.

I unpacked the boxes that I needed, like the kitchen ones...I needed to cook. I was even diligent in folding the boxes flat and recycling them. The problem that I ran into was I was never home long enough to unpack a complete room and set it all up. Not only that I had the brilliant idea of painting walls...as I occupied the space. So there was sh*t everywhere.

Not long after I had moved in my little brother got a job near me and wanted to stay with me for awhile...so much for living alone. I said sure no problem and back into the cycle of co-dependency did I go. 

It didn't turn out to be a bad thing or even a long term thing. My brother helped me to organize things and get other things unpacked and put away. He also helped with the painting and hanging of things...it was almost as though he came to help out so I could actually get settled. 

After about a month or so, not only was my place set up but my brother was moving on to greener pastures. I had finally had my very own place that I was living in as a single gal...and I tell ya boy did I love it. I could leave things in one place and know that's where they would be when I went looking for them. Any mess that was in the house was from me and only me. I could walk around naked, not shower or brush my teeth. I could sit on my couch and do nothing all day if I wanted...it was my place and I didn't have to share it with anyone. These are the times I think about when I was single and how I loved it. I had no one to answer to and was just able to do whatever it was that I wanted. 

I wholeheartedly agree with what the movie said about enjoying the time that you're single. I think it helps people not only decide what they want in a partner but also in life. The old adage of 'love yourself first' totally applies here. This time alone and being single helps you to reflect on who and what you want to be...this is where you love yourself first. 

So enjoy the time you're single because before you know it, you're going to be wishing for some alone time and wishing that you really did cherish being single.